Coping with bereavement
Don’t bottle things up
Not everyone can express their sadness openly. But intentionally bottling up your feelings won’t help. Don’t try to compare yourself to someone who has gone through something similar. Grief is an individual experience, so don’t put a time limit on it based on how others have coped. Remember that it often takes much longer to get through bereavement than most people think.
Talking goes a long way.
Talk about it
One of the most helpful things to do after a bereavement is to talk about what you’re going through. You may, for instance, find it easy to talk to friends and family members. But if you’re the type of person who prefers to experience grief privately, you may prefer to talk to a counselor. You could also try getting help from a charity that specializes in bereavement counseling. Other support services may exist in your area – ask at your doctor’s surgery for details.
Plant a memorial
Research suggests that maintaining bonds with someone who has died is healthy, as many bereaved people fear their loved ones will be forgotten. Being able to pay your respects at a graveside can help, as it provides a place you can associate with the deceased.
You could also consider planting a tree in your local park, or even a rose bush in your garden as a reminder of the person you’ve just lost? To plant a tree in a favorite spot, contact the parks department of your local municipal council.
Take small steps
When someone close to you dies, don’t rush to make big decisions. Instead, take small steps such as starting a new hobby or taking a short break. Then in time, you’ll find the right time and the courage to make any necessary big changes.
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